Nkechi Blessing, ex-lover, Falegan make peace but rule out rekindled romance

Nollywood actress Nkechi Blessing and her former partner, Opeyemi Falegan, have settled their differences, four years after their public fallout.

In April 2022, PREMIUM TIMES reported that Blessing announced the end of her relationship with Mr Falegan, insisting that they weren’t married. They later confirmed their separation in separate Instagram videos. 

In his video, the Ekiti-born politician accused the actress of dating him for his money and sex. The pair have not appeared together publicly since their bitter split, until Mr Falegan apologised to the actress during a TikTok Live session.

In the TikTok Live video obtained by this newspaper on Monday, Blessing insisted that Mr Falegan had to apologise before they could settle their differences. She recalled that his comments about her during an earlier social media Live session contributed to their fallout.

The actress said people still used some of his remarks from years ago against her on social media. She also recalled defending him against online criticism despite their strained relationship.

Blessing said she had intervened in the comment sections of videos where users accused him of wrongdoing. She explained that she defended him by telling the critics that the person they accused of scamming them was not Mr Falegan.

“I told you something in February that if you must, you see what’s because of what you did five years ago, some irrelevant nitwits, they used to use it to insult me yesterday. That is to tell you the internet never forgets. There’s no letting go without an apology,” she, the actress. 

Mr Falegan, however, expressed regret over their past disagreement, telling the actress that he had grown and changed over the years. He urged them to put the incident behind them.

He also acknowledged that they each had different perspectives on what transpired and suggested that they move on without revisiting the issue.

“From the bottom of my heart to the depth of my soul, do not be angry, Nkechi. That is gone. See that you have grown and become more mature. A gentleman wouldn’t extend the words of the lady. And another thing you need to understand is this: who I was yesterday is not who I am today,” he said.

“No rekindling”

The viral video sparked celebrations among netizens, especially fans of Mr Falegan and Blessing, who interpreted it as a sign that the former lovers had reunited. However, the duo took to their respective social media pages on Sunday night to dispel the speculation.

In a statement posted on Instagram, Blessing made it clear that she had no intention of rekindling her romance with Mr Falegan, stressing that forgiveness does not amount to reconciliation.

She added that she chose peace and forgiveness while distancing herself from anything that no longer added value to her life.

She said: “I have come to understand that growth is not just about moving forward, but also about making peace with the things that once broke you. Five years ago, a lot was said, a lot happened, and emotions were displayed publicly. But five years is a long time to carry hurt, anger, or resentment. 

“I want to make something very clear: Making peace with someone from my past does not mean I want that person back in my present. Forgiveness is not a relationship announcement. Being cordial does not mean rekindling old flames. And letting go of bitterness does not mean reopening doors that life has already taught me to close.”

“Better left closed”

The actress also maintained that some relationships belong in the past, explaining that wishing someone well does not necessarily mean welcoming them back into her life.

She said the decision reflects neither bitterness nor bad blood, but a choice by two adults to walk away from years of unnecessary negativity and find peace.

“Some chapters are better left closed, not because there is hatred, but because there is growth. I can genuinely wish someone well without wanting to share my life with them again. So please, let’s not mistake maturity for romance or peace for a reunion.

“No bad blood, no bitterness, no going backwards. Just two adults choosing peace after years of unnecessary negativity. I have forgiven, I have healed, and most importantly, I have moved on. Some people belong in your memories, not your future. And that’s perfectly okay”, said Blessing. 

Mutual understanding

Meanwhile, Mr Falegan said the people he and Blessing were yesterday were different from who they had become today.

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He shared this in a Facebook post on Monday, noting that misunderstandings and difficult experiences are sometimes inevitable in life. 

According to him, honest discussions, mutual understanding and the ability to move past disagreements could help restore peace.

“To everyone who has followed our journey, shown concern, offered advice, said prayers and supported us through our differences, we would like to share something from our hearts. We are happy to share that we have resolved our differences and are in a very good place now. We have chosen to put the past behind us, embrace mutual understanding and move forward with kindness and respect.

“We also want to appeal to everyone who may have taken sides sincerely, defended either of us, or expressed strong opinions during that period. We appreciate the concern and love, but we kindly ask that you allow the matter to rest. There is no need for further arguments, blame or negativity on our behalf. Nobody is perfect, and we believe there is strength in forgiveness, maturity in understanding and beauty in choosing peace”, said Mr Falegan. 

He added that they harboured no resentment and hoped those who genuinely wished them well would be happy to see them move on to a better chapter of their lives.

“Thank you for standing by us, and please continue to spread love rather than division. Peace is beautiful.”