Parents, your daughters are biting what will choke their destiny

I’m happy to tell you that I finally found the right man at age 34, and my bed remains undefiled! After the temptations, struggles and near-rape experiences I endured because I said no to sex until after marriage, it was not an easy decision to keep myself until marriage. But God preserved me. He gave me an angel in human form. God is wonderful; He made it possible, and I am super grateful.

Thank you, ma, for your encouragement. I saved your post in 2022 and promised myself that I would search for you when the right man found me. Please rejoice and celebrate with me as I get married to the love of my life on Sunday, December 6. Thanks for encouraging me with your articles. God bless you, ma!

Blessing

Dear Mama,

I trust you are doing well. I’m not sure you can remember me. It’s been years since we communicated. I reached out to you four years ago. I later graduated from university with a first-class degree. I’m currently in my third year of a PhD programme in the United States and still a virgin. Thanks for motivating me to stay chaste through your articles. Please pray for me to end up with the right man. Love you always!

Tobi

Dear Evangelist Temilolu,

I thought I should share my testimony with you. I got married seven years ago, and I did so as a virgin. I kept reading your columns in newspapers. I do not know if you still write them, though, but they were very helpful. I read them often and followed you wherever I could find you. This is me saying thank you. Your words were encouraging, and I am glad I heard you when I did.

I have also tried to pay it forward by writing a book, Diary of a Virgin Bride (The Tale of the Girlchild and Her Sexual Struggles). I outlined how extremely difficult it is for a young girl to grow up unpolluted. Amazing testimonies have come out of it, too. What you have done has had a ripple effect. You have surely inspired more people than you know. Thank you, ma. I honour you.

Nneka

Dear parents,

Mothers especially, my first prayer for you is that you don’t end up going from one church to another, praying for your girls to settle down in marriage when you should be enjoying the fruits of your labour, relaxing with your grandchildren.

Many of them are biting off more than they can chew. I might have written about Gen Z’s disturbing attitudes to life, immorality, etc., over time, but I thought I should share a disturbing trend whereby young ladies who are at the ripe and ideal age for marriage would rather focus on men old enough to be their fathers and ignore eligible bachelors with whom they can journey through life.

Unfortunately for them, while these young men they disregard eventually get married, make good money and become stable in life, these ladies keep going from one relationship to another, sleeping around with no marriage in sight, and continue to get rejected, used and dumped by men!

A 69-year-old music enthusiast who had always spoken about a great soprano singer in his church told me that he approached the lady, whom he discovered was 25 years old, to commend her for her singing prowess and requested that she send him her account details for a cash gift.

After giving her his number, he said the first thing she sent was six pictures of herself looking voluptuous before sending her account details! She immediately took his appreciation of her God-given gift as an advance. All this man needed to do, if he were promiscuous, was to dazzle her with more gifts and start dating her until he got tired of her/

Who knows whether she has an ideal young man who could give her the most beautiful life hanging around her, but whom she feels is too low for her? She would rather hang out with old men, thinking she’s enjoying life, not knowing she’s laying the foundation for future loneliness, pain and great confusion.

Parents, most of your girls are lost, I must confess! They are greatly troubled by the spirit of the times, and you have to get ready to deal with a lot if care is not taken. You cannot but be intentional in raising them if you want peace in the future. If your girls are still in their preteens and teens, I pray God gives you maximum control over their lives to lead them right.

I invite you to follow me on Facebook – TEMILOLU OKEOWO and Instagram @ Okeowo Temilolu.

Are you still engaging in premarital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a secondary virgin! You are most welcome aboard the chastity campaign train, and the Girls Club is open to all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation, and state of domicile to 07086620576.

FINAL WORD

Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and sets you apart from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in premarital or extramarital sex. Stay chaste!